5 Tips to Being a Fabulous Fuller Figure Bride
I hear it all the time from brides-to-be…..”I have to lose weight before my wedding”, or “I don’t want to look like this in my wedding dress”. I feel very sad and I can totally relate.
I remember when I was getting married. The first thing I thought was "how much time have I got to lose weight before the wedding".
I was obsessed with not being an overweight bride, nobody would want to see an overweight bride in a wedding dress. I spent time and money with a personal trainer trying to lose weight and look better.
Then I realised I wasn't even allowing myself to enjoy the whole process of planning my wedding. Not to mention the fact that my other half loved me for me, and wants to marry me for me.
I ditched the self-inflicted stress about my weight and nose dived into the excitement of planning our wedding. Once I slipped that dress on I was transformed. I loved how I looked and felt and nothing else mattered.
This is how it should be. Rock your curves and your perfect imperfections on your wedding day - this is the person your other half loves.
It’s time to change the narrative about what will and won’t make you happy.
If you’re getting married I’m going to assume that you ARE happy! Therefore thinking that you’ll be happy for your wedding once you lose weight is just confusing for you and takes away some of the joy of your special day.
Now I’m not going to say “don’t lose weight”, because if your weight is an issue, then it’s an issue. But what I don’t want you to do is hang your entire wedding on your weight. Solving any issue with your weight is more deep rooted than a single event, like a party or a school reunion or your wedding. It’s about how you feel about yourself, how you feel within yourself, irrespective of the event.
Deciding that you’re going to lose weight in time for your wedding is an added layer of pressure you don’t need. So let’s concentrate on you being happy within yourself and happy in your own skin.
5 Tips to Being a Happy & Fabulous Fuller Figure Bride
#1 Remember Why You’re Getting Married
Something happened, someone proposed. Whichever one of you it was, someone said “yes”!. And that person loves you. You’ve decided that you want to spend the rest of your lives together, for better or for worse. This is huge right? Your partner loves you AND your body, and it’s time for you to remember that; this is why you’re getting married…because of the love between you.
#2 Love Yourself as You Love Others, And As They Love You
I bet you have another or several plus size people in your life. And I bet you love every inch of them! You don’t judge them, you don’t turn your nose up at their fuller-beautifully-curvy-figure, and it doesn’t define them! The way you love them…….love yourself! Don’t forget that the people in your life love you, so honour that and join them in their love for you.
#3 Tune Into Your Wedding
Every ounce of energy you’re spending on your weight, you’re missing out on the joy of your wedding. So dive deep into it, all the planning, the excitement and start celebrating. Your wedding journey started the second someone said “yes”.
#4 Get the Right People Around You
If you have close friends or sisters or bridesmaids or your mum, really lean in to them, have these happy people around you every step of the way, and let their unapologetic joy rub off on you. Don’t forget to share each joyous step with your partner too and really soak it up. Even those bits that seem a little stressful.
#5 Get a Wedding Dress That is YOU!
Forget about the size, it’s about your dress and how it hugs and graces every inch of your perfectly curvy body. If your budget permits, get a dress made just for you. Get as much mirror time as you can in your dress and really embrace the beautiful bride-to-be that stares back at you. Again, how would you react if it was one of your fuller figure friends in their wedding dress? You’d probably be gushing at how beautiful they look…… give yourself the same love.
Learning to Love Your Fuller Figure
I know, it’s easier said than done, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be done right?
I had a chat recently with my dear friend Sally. She’s a super sensitive, beautiful human who helps brides through the stresses of body confidence when they’re getting married. Sally and I were so into our discussion that we decided to record it. No planning, no rehearsing, just straight-off-the-bat real talk. Hit the link below and have a watch and listen….
Sally absolutely gets you, she’s the Wedding Godmother! If you think Sally can help you, be in touch with her. You can find her here:
Instagram.com/myweddinggodmother
I’m here for you too! If you’re looking for a wedding photographer to help you look and feel fabulous on your special day, with your gorgeous fuller figure and beautiful curves, be in touch! Dee xx
Did you know…..
Brides with a dress size more than 10-12 are often considered plus size or fuller figure. No pressure eh….xx
